I WILL LET YOU GO AND SET YOU FREE...

Sometimes in our lives we have to let someone or something go for change to happen. We hurt sometimes more profound for we feel the reasons, and we know the outcomes and we would like to make the outcomes come forth faster. I know that so many people wait for people and feel the high intensity of the other person as if they are apart of them. As if you cannot even breathe at times or move. When you have to set someone free so they can develope in their life what they need and that can be painful but, so worth it in the end. You do this for the sake of the process and evolution to take place. That does not mean that you will not come back together, when you have strong faith and truth you can never go wrong ever! God holds us in a space of clarity sometimes and when we are able to reach that space we will move once again forward. Every single person goes through a movement that can not always be explained in such a way that will make sense, why is that? Because everything is not suppose to make logical sense. Spirit works through a realm that is so much more profound than anything we can see with our own eyes.

So I will leave you with Trust the process and know in your heart that people are really changing for the better even if it looks ugly on the surface. Even if it seems as if it will never happen, or it is over thy end. That is not the truth, it is not the cause or effect. Trust in the knowing of the heart that is deeply leading the way for those who want that.

A good Friend Just text me and said..." Ann,Now an opportunity is opening up for you , a window is being opened by the Divine, don't get stuck in the past, jump through the window and be saved, healed. Walk peacefully into a new chapter of your life."

Peace to you ,
Ann

WANTING TO LET GO OF DISAPPOINTMENTS

This is a very personal blog for me to write. I am going to share some of me here to those who may relate. I have had a disappointment happen to me that I did not see coming. I thought that everything was okay...not grandioso but- working through and making progress each day learning and growing. When someone in your life decides to make a choice that leaves you completely and utterly speechless, you tend to go through so many emotions. First, anger and than pain, than confusion, than back to anger and than again to pain. What a ride you go on, and when their are others involved they tend to ride this ride as well. A friend of mine wrote me she said..." Ann the kids are very tired... Every mood swings and emotional wave you are riding with these men, the kids are riding too. " That was the painful fact.


Yes, things in life can seem unfair, and you may feel as if you had not a choice, all the choices were made for you. I have a lot happened in my life as a mother. I have been treated poorly. I have been betrayed, beaten, and cursed. What one person was thinking, feeling, and holding on to you were clueless about, that they would take it that far. We never feel that the ones we love so very much will ever go against the grain. When you walk a path together especially when you are both very open and aware of the bigger picture you do not think that the other person will "change up position" you have faith that they will be able to see clearly the truth, and find ways to continue to grow with you or beside you.No relationship, whether it be a love interest or friendship is always going to be 100% okay at all times, that is how we learn from eachother. I guess the best advice that I can give to anyone is always be your own person, no matter how much you love someone.


Do not give up yourself and allow anyone to swallow you whole. People do not do it intentionally all the time they just meld with you and you become one, instead of being who you really are. That can be very unhealthy and very co-dependent. We do not always see that while we are in the middle. What I can say is if someone disappoints you or does not seem to continue to walk the path with you in the same way, just allow them what they need. That is a Gift to them. Even if it hurts for awhile. We stretch ourselves and become more of a person with an open heart when we do.

Look at it like this, Everyone has to grow and the best ones that help us is the ones we love the most or the ones that get to us the most. Honor that and try very hard to accept what is being laid before you at this time.


Hugs and much Peace,
Ann

FOR THE TRULY GROWN,SEXY AND MATURE ADULT!

Sexy is not having how you look and how you dress. Sexy and mature is a behavior that is about self growth, self love, personal responsibility and not blaming anyone for what is wrong in your life.
When a person blames, they are giving away their power. That is a child like behavior. Adults know that they can make or break their own life. No one can make us feel anything. No one can harm us without our consent.
It is hard to take responsibility for our own lives but necessary.


HOW TO BE TRULY SEXY AND MATURE.........

1. Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you are a beautiful and intelligent person that knows the truth that no one can fix your life for you.

2. Tell yourself that you own the power to create your life. No romance, job, friend, family,etc has that power in your life. You are the sole person responsible for you.

3. Do not blame the parents, an ex or no one for your pain. It is your pain and your job to heal it.


4. Do not look outside of yourself for validation. Someone telling you that you are attractive or that they love you is subjective and can be taken away from you at any time. You telling you how much you love yourself is everlasting.

5. Do not expect people to accommodate your needs. People have their own lives and you are not # 1 in their lives. They are #1 in their life.

6. Not everything is about your feelings. Our feelings lie to us and are based on mostly painful past situations

TRUE LOVE BEGINS WITH TRUE FRIENDSHIP

The greatest love affairs of all time are those who's core relationship is founded upon deep and meaningful friendship. Often times in life we are easily distracted by what is visually appealing and confusing that with what we will hope will be emotional appealing. However, this is akin to putting the "cart before the horse."

Of course everyone dreams of the entire package, and having it all in their intimate. What the Universe suggests though, is that you let your emotions be your guide beneath the surface and bring that into unison with your physical desire, and not the other way around. By being attracted physically and hoping the emotions will come to be as deep as the physical attraction is not a recipe for success.

You will be light years ahead in the game of love if you learn to think in this contrarian philosophy. With true friendship comes true respect, another undying quality of a love that lasts. You will draw nearer to you quality relationships built upon solid foundations that will stand the test of time, and bring you joy beyond your dreams.