Are you in the same situation today that you were a year ago?
It stinks doesn't it. It is hard to believe that a year or longer has gone by and the situation is the same. Nothing is better. Even with all of the readings and the hope that change will occur, still nothing. Unfortunately, you are in a karmic situation that has a lesson attached to it. Joy! Right? You were looking for love and found it and all of a sudden it gets messy and emotional and you are hoping that love will fix the mess and save the relationship but it does not. Fear unfortunately is the monster that controls us. It controls the person in question by making them run or take on an affair. Fear controls you because you are scared to up the demands because you are afraid of losing the relationship. The bad part is that there is no relationship if the person is running. Only in name or on paper. Both of you are afraid. Therefore the universe has nothing to work with. No one is making a move because of fear and the false hope that love will conquer it all. If a person has deep wounds, them loving you will not make them come back and fix things without a push. You feel like if they love you they should fix it but you loving them is understanding that they have pain too and they do not know how to fix it.
Your fear is upsetting you and making you hope that you do not have to make a big move that is risky. so you call for a reading just hoping that something will give on its own. It has been over a year and it has not changed because you are unfortunately in a situation that you have to push things along.
FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE ADDRESSING THE ISSUE......
It is hard but you are doing it. Stick with it and meet your partner halfway. Never expect them to get it from your eyes. That is not possible just like you can not get it from their eyes.
FOR THOSE WHO ARE AFRAID.....
Unfortunately, you have put yourself in a stuck position. Unstick yourself by risking it. You doing nothing yields nothing.
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Thursday, June 03, 2010 12:31 PM by justaskdrdonna
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Dear mslewers,
I do not know if this is a good or bad or an eye opening wow. I hope it is a good wow. I had a little bit of free time and I knew that this was the issue of the week so I needed to blog on it. We have all been there waiting and waiting and hoping that someone will turn things around. we get sad and frustrated but fear is under it all. The universe is waiting on us to help things along which can be stressful. We have no choice until we take a risk can things get better. I hope this comment helps. thank you for your comment.
Thursday, June 03, 2010 12:32 PM by justaskdrdonna
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For everyone when we sit around hoping for the other party to change, we are actually arguing with reality. Accept reality and know that you are powerful enough to change things.
Thursday, June 03, 2010 2:45 PM by tiddlywinks-3
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Ah yes, Donna. This is indeed the issue of the week... more like the issue of the past two months, for me! lol When I do something, I can see my own power in it... even when it's scary. Once the fear clears out of the way, after I've done something, it's amazing what I can see from my efforts. It's funny. I can feel the power of my actions, and as soon as fear steps in, everything gets really cloudy and I start to make negative decisions.
Combat the fear so that you can always see clear!
:)
Thursday, June 03, 2010 3:02 PM by justaskdrdonna
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Dear Tiddly,
that is so awesome and so well put. Getting rid of our fears does allow us to see more clearly. It opens up doors and gets us closer to what we want. I guess for some part of the fear is not knowing if they deserve to have what they want. It is personal power for sure.
Thursday, June 03, 2010 5:27 PM by mslewers
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Definitely a great wow. For this situation, it's not quite a year yet but it's certainly at a stand still. I knew there was fear on his part due to wounds from his past. But after reading this I'm having to admit my fear as well. It's like you've read me without me even calling you. I'm being understanding and honestly trying to meet him halfway but daily I search the blogs and periodically call for a clue to a solution to move it along with no success yet.
Thursday, June 03, 2010 5:48 PM by justaskdrdonna
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Dear mslewers,
I am so happy that this blog helped you. I know it is a touchy subject. It was just the big theme of the week so I had to write about it.
fear is such a strong emotion. It holds us back even when we do not know that we are afraid. It is so hard and confusing because society teaches us that love moves mountains and that people will fight for love. Fear can get in the way. You are going to win the battle because you know your fear and his. Now you can plan how to approach things in a way that helps you more. Thank you again for liking this blog.
Thursday, June 03, 2010 9:38 PM by tiddlywinks-3
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That's the real part I struggle with, Donna... feeling like I don't deserve what I want. And so I fear asking for what I want because I'm afraid I'll find out that it's true, that I really DON'T deserve it. And then I feel paralyzed.
Friday, June 04, 2010 6:03 AM by justaskdrdonna
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Dear Tiddly,
so many people think the same way. Thank you for your honesty. We have to believe that we deserve something for it to come to us. We have to feel worthy of it. Nothing can come to u unless we are attracting it.
The fear does paralyze people. The situation repeats over and over until a breakthrough happens. The universe does not let us escape.
Friday, June 04, 2010 6:36 AM by justaskdrdonna
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NOTE:
Our own fear is what holds us back, prevents the prediction and gets in out way of having what we want. fear is that powerful. we are that powerful. if something is not happening, a person has to look at how they are stopping it.
When we are afraid to learn the truth and we do not speak out, we get nothing because we are not allowing anything to happen and we are stuck. We get mad at the other person but they are not doing anything wrong. we are the cause of something not happening.
Friday, June 04, 2010 8:54 AM by justaskdrdonna
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unfortunately, if we are in a bad situation, we have attracted it because we can only attract what we believe we deserve deep down inside ourselves. everyone has to explore their beliefs and see what they really believe deep down inside. this is why forgiveness and facing deep pain is important. if we are always fearing being hurt or rejection, abandonement,etc we will keep attracting the situation/lesson until we deal with it.
Friday, June 04, 2010 8:22 PM by mslewers
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It's been an emotional night alone with my thoughts and the truth from this blog. I have made a decision to "unstick" myself from this situation and take a risk first thing in the morning. I believe I deserve more and need to show that. I am choosing to accept whatever outcome it brings knowing that I'm conquering my fear instead of letting it conquer me. Thank you so much. Please continue blogging.
Friday, June 04, 2010 9:30 PM by justaskdrdonna
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Dear mslewers,
I am sorry that it is emotional but i am glad that this blog helped you to see the situation. The tough part is that whenever we are in a situation, we can not see how it is affecting us. That is how people get stuck in the same situation for so long. We have all been there and then one day we find out that we can unstick ourselves.
CONGRATS TO YOU! for taking this step. it will help the both of you and it does not make the relationship over with.There may be a time out so that boundaries can be established and the truth is allowed to reveal itself. the best part is that you now have been reminded that you are amazing and powerful. You deserve the best. I am cheering you on.
Saturday, June 05, 2010 6:52 AM by tiddlywinks-3
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I am no longer stuck.
Cause and effect. It's what I've been talking about for weeks. Cause and effect works in the positive the same way it works in the negative. In my attempts to get someone else to see this, I discovered that I, too, needed to see it and work with it.
The fine mix of saying AND showing, is what creates change. Positive or negative. It's up to each of us.
When I change the way I do things, I change things around me. Positive or negative.
I choose positive!
Saturday, June 05, 2010 7:17 AM by justaskdrdonna
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Dear Tiddly,
thank you again. it is so true that cause and effect is working and we have to decide which way we want it to work for us. you now have what you need to get what you want.it is true that we control our environment and how we respond to things. No one can make us feel anything. we choose our feelings. Usually those feelings were there years before and never got dealt with. Your comments will help others to see that happiness is a choice and we have to choose it because it just does not fall on our laps. No one can make us happy. It is within all the time.
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