Stop. Go. Stop. Go. This is what those red and green twinkle lights of Christmas strands remind me of. The green lights flash, then the red ones. Mixed signals. Remember, we all learned as kids that song about the stop light - "Red on top means stop, stop, stop...Yellow says be careful...Green below says go, go, go.. Yellow says be careful". And, mixed signals don't have a Yellow light - it's either Stop or Go. Some fun here, hunh?
One minute your partner is present, the next he/she is screeching on the breaks. What to do?
Yield!!! Locate YOUR yellow light! Use caution. Step back. REFUSE to be confused. The reality is that it's THEIR confusion that is causing the flashy lights to twinkle, "stop, go, stop, go".
If you do not participate and watch - much in the same way you are watching a really bad movie - I mean a really bad one, as in "B" where the film ran out of money and they use claymation to complete the movie instead of real actors - what results is that you stay grounded. You use caution. You don't participate in the back/forth of their ball of confusion.
Face it: If you consider yourself to be the awesome individual that you are; if you refuse to allow your brains to be their ping pong table; if you just let the storm ride out - you're actually doing your partner a favor. Your boundaries assist him/her in thinking things through, and giving a respect to you. You don't blow up, you don't lose your cool, you don't participate in their brat attack. You remove the little light that is forcing the annoying "stop/start".
Then, you will see all green lights - steady, sound, grounded.
Finally, I am running away from this MESS for good!!! ALAS!!! It's so hard to deal with someone who I believed and my friends support this too ...Dealing with someone "Bi-Polar" One minute he is IN , one minute he is OUT...Then Blames everything on You , they Stand soo Righteous that they it's all your fault not them.
Alleluia I'm finally OUT!!! GREEN LIGHT ..FOR STAYING GROUNDED. Yeeepeeyy!!!
Namaste,
Ann
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