REVENGE??!!?? Spells??!!?? Really???

I recieved a txt from a friend today wanted to know about Spells. I laughed and asked her what in the world is going on? She replied about her husband who betrayed her so many times even after all the Unconditional Love she has been giving to him. He treated her like a common Trump! and Humiliated her numerous times infront of his family and his friends.

Hmmmm..... Funny, this is exactly what happened to me. So as a good friend, I tried to adviser about the Difference of a White Spell and A Black Spell. This is not something i would recommend especially forcing someone to love you - will only cause a tremendous pain and sufferings for both of you .

I do believe in Karma .. It will come maybe not soon enough but it will and that would be a bitch!! Whatever you feel, feel it, be it anger, sadness, whatever the emotion is. It's your right. In making this the final chapter, it is yours to feel all that you do.

I have emailed my friend a Blog i wrote in the Past - that i have never publish I told her to read and learn....



I have always been under the belief system that others cause harm because of the same unknowingly and unintentional reasons as me.

I have gotten angry, and have had bad thoughts and feelings toward someone a couple of times in my life.Sometimes I ask my advisors if so and so is going to get their up comings, they gently coach me that I need to heal and let God take care of the situation . . . that I need to move on down on my path . . .

I have NEVER done anything to this man to deserve this kind of disrespect or treatment. Everything that has happened to him, he brought upon himself, and he should have more dumped upon his evil head.

So REVENGE? I wake up this morning . . . wishing I had a Bazooka to shoot right down his RAPTOR mouth! I chastise myself for letting my Jurassic Park sized fence down and allowing him to know where I live. I think of all the spells and the spirits I have battled and overcome, and have STRONG desires to call them all down upon his mortal being!

I want to HATE all men, because of what this ONE man did to me, and has done to so other women. Oh, he is so clever . . . he makes you laugh, he makes you feel pretty, he says all the right things, get's you drunk, humiliates you, starts breaking your things, that you fear for your life, call the police . . . then because of his charm . . . the stupid cops think your in love with the fool . . . clever evil man.


This venting . . . may or may not be my revenge . . . as I am still mortal . . . I know intellectually, I need to forgive myself for allowing my fence down . . . I need to forgive myself for falling victim to someone who I knew was a complete ZERO but I did it anyway! Just because I wanted to feel the caress of sweet lips against mine . . . someone I had already been with . . . someone who I had already lost my virtue to . . . so it wouldn't count against me!!!

LOL!!! See the insanity of even my rationalization??? With all that I know!!! And I do know a lot!!! Even I fall prey!!! This time . . . KNOWINGLY!!!

Revenge??? I'm not sure just yet . . . Maybe what I will do is call upon all the spirits of all the women he has hurt and swirl that energy as a large vortex over his head!!! Just a thought!

But thoughts are things!!! so mote it be!

THAT and THIS is the difference between WHITE and BLACK magic!

God forgive me! Not sure about forgiving him . . .

Forgiveness is me giving up my RIGHT to hurt you for hurting me . . .

I'm not sure if I want to give up that RIGHT just yet!



Well, My friend I hope you feel better reading this... Honey, you are not alone. I myself went through all those bullshit ... you just need to learn. And if ever he comes back to your life - ONLY with a humble heart, A Humble Self ... Oppppssss... NO, NO, NO - You are not going to accept him that fast...He needs to learn , period! He needs to show you and your kids that he is someone worth to be with or even around your kids.

When someone lies, steals, cheats or anything that breaks a trust issue . . . it takes a long time for someone to redeem themselves if they have broken your trust . . . Some sheep do have wolves clothing . . . Don't be so trusting just because it looks like a sheep . . . is it walking and talking like a wolf?

I hope this helps you ....Forgive YOURSELF first! By doing so , YOu will learn to let go... who knows.. You might not want his low life ass back in your life again. And by that time, You won't even settle for anything less.... Ha!!!

Love and Peace,
Ann

3 Great Messages for me on my Facebook

Aug. 31- Ann , On this day, God wants you to know ... that happiness has nothing to do with pleasure. You feel pleasure when you want something and you get it. Or when you don't want something and you remove it. Pleasure is always relative. Happiness is absolute. Happiness is the understanding and acceptance of life as... it is in this very moment as completely perfect, because every creation of God is perfect. The degree to which you do not accept life in all of the Divine forms is the degree to which you suffer.



Aug.30- Ann , On this day, God wants you to know ... that your remedy for anxiety is the question: 'Will this matter in a year from now?' All too often you get so involved in things that you look at life through a microscope. Amplifying manifold, an invisible speck becomes an insurmountable mountain. Put down the micr...oscope and imagine yourself a year from now looking back at today: 'Does this really matter?'



Aug.29- Ann On this day, God wants you to know ... that when you are unsure how to proceed, stop. Be still and enter into the silence. Allow your mind to cease its restless thinking. Wait. Let the answer come in its time.

I am so Blessed and Thankful!!!

Well, first of all i would like to THANKS Everyone who emailed me their comments and concerns on my contreversial blog yesterday.Also my friends who commented on my facebook. You guys are awesome!!! Some of the emails are rather "for my eyes only"...Thanks, Lorelie and Veronica for your kind words (girl,i'll see you soon in Vegas,I promised!)so sweet of you girls.

I am very thankful whoever came up with FACEBOOK... I LOVE IT!!

Where I have found EVERYONE ... I mean EVERYONE....From my childhood friends, neighbors growing up, my elementary-highschool teachers, my classmates and batchmates in elementary-highschool-college. My Co workers, bosses and friends in NAF ATSUGI, CAMP ZAMA, YOKOTA, YOKOHAMA,and OKINAWA. My coworkers and bosses here in the States CA-TX. My families, cousins, aunts and uncles all over the world (London, Australia,Ireland,CA,WA,NY,AZ,Philippines,Canada, Dubai,Singapore and Hongkong)

I can't wait to see all my friends, playmates and neighbors from my street i grew up Begonia St.,Olongapo city in San diego,CA. Next year i won't miss any of our Sta.Rita Fiesta.

I can't wait to see all my Classmates all over Southern CA. Watch my Good friend's band play.

Missy, Sheila, Aiza, Marj ,Ellen, Mary Ann, Jane, Maricar and Ana ...GIRLS, I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE YOU , LAUGH AND CRY WITH YOU GUYS TALKING ABOUT OUR YOUNGER YEARS...
I LOVE YOU MY FRIENDS!!!

Gee, going to get an appointment book to schedule all the events.

FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART, THANK YOU SO MUCH TO ALL OF YOU.

GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILIES....

Love and Peace.
Maria Antonette Patubo-(Potter)-Dominick

The Old Double Standard ( To all the Ladies in the house)

We live in 2010 . . . you think the OLD ways would have changed . . . let me tell ya sister . . .

THE OLD WAYS ARE STILL THE SAME!

What is double standard? Double standard is that there is a standard for one sex and a different standard for the other sex.

For guys . . . the name of the game is to get as many notches on his belt, or bed post as possible . . . that makes him a stud!!

For the gals . . . the name of the game is to stay VIRTUOUS! I was shocked when a woman asked me what virtue was!!!

REALLY?????

Virtue means you know that your sitting on a pot of gold! GIRLS!!! And you don't spend that gold unless you are ready to INVEST!!!

How much gold you sitting on?? Each time you give yourself away . . . you have given your virtue away. That would be the number of guys you gave your self to. If you had a relationship, that is one. If you had several relationships, that is several gold nuggets. If you had a one night stand that COUNTS! Cause that guy that you had the one night stand with . . . I guarantee you, he is counting his notch on his belt!

I called a friend of mine who lives a state away . . . this is a safe relationship, he lives a whole state away (CA)! I've dated him years back , but I really enjoy talking to him. Maybe someday we will meet again, maybe not . . . it doesn't really matter to me, I just like talking to him . . .he is a great listener or a BSer-lol ( whisper:) a lover too- he's reading this one.)

I was telling him about the guy who from work ..I'm sure he is in his early 30's ( I just turned 41 last July ) and I'm sure he is a good christian boy waiting to find the right woman to take to the altar some day . . . According to a co worker who knew him ,he has talked about becoming a Police Officer someday...

Anyway I've noticed this young man during my lunch at my work food court like almost everyday now. I must say , He is a fine young man , who wears dressy long sleeves shirts, nice slacks to work. He carries himself manly. He has this USMC physique About 6'0 ft tall , nice light brown clean cut hair- just noticed he has a very nice deep natural green eyes...Gee, kind of like the scene on Desperate House wives- LOL.

Then tonight while i was out having some time with my friends, This guy kept staring at my direction . . . I looked over to see if I knew the person . . . I thought then . . . hummm cute . . . too young . . .So I looked over again, and this time took a good look . . . I said, "OMG, your the guy from work!" (much to my surprise- destined???)

He said, "yep", we both said, "What was your name?", at the same time . . . we exchanged names said he just moved here from CA and how ironic . . . then I quickly got up and left. I said I would see him at work. He grinned and said, " yea."

HERE IS THE THING!!!!

When I told my good friend about what happened tonight who lives in another state . . . he was trying to tell me to go for it!!! OK, first of all, I AM NOT A COUGAR! ( Although my friend started to laughed so hard and he reminded me that he was 21 and I was 30 when we dated) lol! Ok, Let's get this record straight , I AM NOT ALWAYS A COUGAR - AND I DON'T WANT TO KEEP THAT TITLE EITHER. PLUS, IT WASN'T MY FAULT, HONESTLY.I guess I'm just one of the lucky ladies who is younger guys magnet or something.

Second of all I don't want to add a number to the numbers I already got at age 41!!! If you have too many numbers you might find some calling you a whore or a slut! Sure it is great for the guy . . . his big numbers mean that he is a stud!!!
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Long story short . . .Ok, I'm not gonna lie although I've dated so many, i mean many men but I've never given myself for a one night stand at all. I have to know the person and have a great deal of attraction first.....what I'm saying,to make sure when it comes time to purchasing you are NOT going to have buyers remorse . . . because you got too many notches on your necklace. Or you lost too much gold . . .

So as you talk to guys and they tell you to go for it . . . set the story straight! YOUR A LADY!!! NOT A DUDE!!!

Lastly, All I'm saying is . . . know what your investing in . . . I just don't want anyone to have buyers remorse.

Hey we all have experienced buyers remorse . . . the great thing is that the body is amazing and renews itself . . . the heart on the other hand . . . seems to take a beating and keeps beating . . . but hopefully the head will learn from the experience and not repeat . . .

OK, so if you do REPEAT . . . just get up and try again . . . no one is perfect!

And, I DO KNOW WHO I AM.

Now, I can go to bed without having the feeling of GUILT. Besides, I am preparing myself....

It's almost 3am my bed is calling my name.

Love and Peace,
Ann

The Weekend is here!!!!

"To begin to think with purpose, is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment."

Ever sit and watch a baby learn to walk. Or a young bird learn to fly. They start out, fall down, get up, try again, fall again, then finally they are managing to get some momentum going , to start to feel more secure. It's odd, when we are children, or we watch our children in the process of growing, of changing, of new challenges, or situations, we are thrilled , delighted. We get out our video cameras, write our journals, each step loved, cherished. We see that maybe our daughter , our nephew, didn't start the process as quickly as our son, our niece, the child next door. It's more strange, that we forget that our own growth, our significant other's, our loves, our friends, bosses,, whoever, is an on going process.

When GOD starts showing us changes in the situation, whether good or bad, we should be excited as each time is bringing some lesson, some growth. We forget as adults we are, our intimate others are still learning too. Well, this person, that person should be grown up enough to know this, but as when a child maybe fell down the stairs so doesn't try to climb stairs as soon as we did, perhaps fell one time too many in this situation to build up the nerve to try again. Even if we would do something one way, others may not have the stamina, or the faith to move yet. It doesn't mean we give up. We don't give up on our child the first few times he/she tries to walk, we don't think oh they'll never walk. We keep on faith, that this person will learn this lesson. Don't give up on anyone for anything. Even if he/she doesn't have faith in their own abilities, GOD will help them. Eventually they will get up, to stand firm, and go forward to learn other lessons.


Well , it's a little cooler here now in my area for some strange reason - a beautiful day outside. Organizing more papers , the rest should be ready to go.
Enjoy you the weeekend with your love ones...I miss all my babies, where are they??

Love and Peace,
Ann

Want to know What a Real Woman Wants??!!!

Another blog addressed this issue, and claimed that a woman wants to be in charge of her own life.

To an extent this is true, But this came from a man . . . who asked everyone, but THE woman what she wanted!!!!??????????

MEN want independence . . . . so be careful when one claims YOU want independence . . . it is a brush off . . . warning lights should be going off.

Interdependence is the PERFECT relationship, because GOD is part of the relationship. WOMEN want interdependence.

An Interdependent relationship . . . .

HAS three rings . . . . GOD, YOU, and your partner. The center of the three rings is where creation takes place.

If you mention to a man that you are being celibate, til you find the RIGHT man, and he mentions a vibrator . . . this man does NOT know what a woman wants!!!

Get real, we women are wired for touch!!! A little electric toy does not do justice to the touch of a loving, in alignment with GOD man . . . giving your body over to someone you trust . . . . allowing your lower chakra to be opened and exploded in the ecstasy of TRUE passion . . . no degrading, and rolling over when the deed is done . . . like a used one night stand! Or a man who runs like a bat out of hell, leaving the gate open. Although, I don't blame him, as he too is feeling degraded, it works both ways.

Watch for the red flags . . . if you really want a divine relationship the angels are watching over you, and protecting you from the predators . . . but YOU have to want the highest form too!!! And be willing to work, listen, and wait for it!

It is not easy, and there will be times, you think you are all alone . . . but your NOT!

I hope this helps you become an EMPRESS! And if you are a man reading this, I hope you will honor yourself, and become a NOBLE man.

Have a Wonderful Weekend!!!

Love,
Ann

Something to Ponder....

“No man or woman is an island.

To exist just for yourself is meaningless.

You can achieve the most satisfaction when you feel related to some greater purpose in life,

something greater than yourself.”


That is soo true!!! For me, Being born and raised in my culture, I do believed that to fulfill my purpose in life is to be Someone's wife, a partner for life and to bear a child/children. To Love and Serve My Husband and My Children ....makes me Complete as A Woman.

God has Blessed me with 5 Beautiful Good and Loving Children and He will Bless me with A Wonderful Man who is going to be Good to me , Treat me with so much Respect and Love Me Unconditionally.

I wasn't born to be alone...I could guarantee that!!

Love and Peace,
Ann

ARE YOU CODEPENDENT??? ( A Must Read Blog ~very Interesting)

Codependency is a slippery psychological slope. Often times it is hard to differentiate as to whether one is a kind, caring and loving partner or in a codependent state.

How does one know if one is codependent? No one can tell you that you are codependent, you need to work through the identification process on your own. All love affairs and serious relationships have hints of codependency about them, it is a normal and natural part of the loving process to want to help and encourage our partners. The difficulty comes when the boundaries between who is responsible for what blur, codependency has often been described as a “loss of self”.

Here are some factors that may help you to determine whether or not you suffer from codependency.

Caretaking

Codependents tend to feel over responsible for others. They cannot allow anyone to sink or swim, they are the people who continually rescue others. They feel that they are responsible for the feelings, thoughts and actions of others to the degree that they violate personal boundaries on a regular basis. When someone they care for has an issue or problem, the codependent reacts as if the problem is their own. Whether their assistance is sought out or not, the codependent will try to “fix” other people’s problems. Codependents become angry when or if their help is not effective. Codependents will anticipate the needs of others and spend the bulk of their time fulfilling those needs. Codependents harbor resentments because they do not receive the same level of assistance in return from those that they make their lives revolve around.

Low Self Esteem

Codependents tend to come from dysfunctional families and situations, yet at the same time, deny that any dysfunction existed. Codependent persons criticize themselves brutally but cannot accept criticism from others. They regularly reject compliments and praise. They have frequently been the victim of some form of abuse and tend to relish the victim role.

Become Obsessed
Codependent people are overly concerned about other people’s worries and problems and frequently suffer great anxiety over these issues. Worry about slight details is common. Codependents tend to speak about other people rather than themselves, as their focus is always outward, not inward. Codependents regularly check up on other people and have issues with trust, they try to catch people lying or doing hurtful things as they expect to be hurt or betrayed in some way.

Controlling

Backgrounds of codependent people frequently had them live through situations which were very much out of control, therefore, a good deal of the codependent’s energy is spent trying to control other people and their environments. Codependents cannot allow events to happen naturally but must push to move situations in the direction they prefer. When they fail to control people and events, they tend to become very angry and frustrated

Denial

Codependents ignore their own problems or pretend that they aren’t there. They tend to suffer from depression and a myriad of ailments. They can become workaholics, alcohol abusers, self medicate, overeat or spend compulsively.

Dependency

Codependents rely on outside sources for happiness, they cannot be happy in their own skin, they have extreme difficulty being alone.

Poor Communication

Codependents cannot express dissatisfaction or their wants clearly, instead they lie, beg, demand, blame, coerce, threaten and bribe. When these tactics fail, they frequently go into a codependent rage.

Codependent Rage

Because the codependent is unable to express dissatisfaction or displeasure in a timely manner, they frequently allow resentments to build and build until a trigger event, that may be quite minor in nature, sets them into a full-blown rage. Codependents can become extremely angry and even violent while in this state, everything that has been boiling inside them, sometimes for years, will explode during these outbursts. Issues that have long since past or been resolved are brought up as if they happened just yesterday.

If any of these qualities sound like you or someone you know, you may well be dealing with codependency issues.

Coping With Codependency

The first step in dealing with codependency is to understand and accept that you cannot control other people. You must learn that the only person that you can control is yourself. You must learn to set clear boundaries between your own responsibilities and the responsibilities of others. In learning to let go of the urge to fix everything and everyone you can begin to lead a happier, more relaxed life.

Whenever something is upsetting you, you can try this little exercise.

Write down why you are upset, in detail. Right down what you can do about it, what can you really do to change the situation? If there is a solution, start working on it, but, if it turns out that there is nothing that you, personally can do to change the situation there is only one thing that you can do and that is accept the situation for what it is, and let go.

Do this each and every time that you get upset and you will begin to see that you may be wasting a lot of your emotional and psychological energy on episodes that are totally beyond your control. In disciplining yourself to analyze situations this way, you will begin to recognize those issues that you cannot influence and find, over time, that you are becoming upset less and less frequently.

My Own Quote of the Day

"Do not assign an outcome based on a fear.

It is unnecessary sadness.

Heal the fear."

Be careful not to confuse your feelings as being the only reality.
You know the saying that there is two sides to a story than there is the truth.
It is recommended to see where do your feelings really come from and usually it is a past issue. If you want to enjoy your life, remember to step back and ask yourself is it true what you are feeling. Being emotionally reactive can make matters worse and beyond repair.

Torture starts within ourselves when we try to change what God's Will- trying to fight everything he planned for us.
When you Heal yourself and get all the Clarity ...you will experience peace easily.

May God Bless you all

Love and Peace,
Ann

( One of my All time fave movie and My Dream Vacation the French Riviera)

The Beauty of Surrendering .. and I'm in Peace!!!

Okay...I give up...I surrender! I can no longer take on what God's job is. How did come to miraculous conclusion? Recent events in my life. For so many years now I've been debating if should I stay or should I go now?? But some remarks/ incidents occured lately just ultimately, made everything tastes so sour- a 90 degree turned around!!! And without even trying...I'm seeing myself cutting the cord that connects me from people who only brings me down with their miserable life or detaching myself from the negative situation.

As the day goes by , I am feeling the sense of Peace and NOT even feeling Angry of anything at all. For awhile I have tried to control every aspect of my life. I found out it no longer works! So here you go God take it away as I no longer can do it myself. I surrender! The person has consumed my heart, and soul. I was so exhausted, at the end of my rope. I have to love enough to let go.

I know that surrender sounds terrible to some. If you are a person who has been wounded in a past relationship, surrendering will sound scary if not way too vulnerable for you to do.The bad luck is really the past baggage that is being allowed to hurt the present. Bringing the past in your current relationship will make it crowded and your current partner will leave. And to those people who are loves and enjoys hurting others by being mean , saying "evil" words.....They are just impriosing themselves, Remember GOD is being gentle as possible and If You Ignore all his " Calls" and /or His " WILL".. THEN YOUR PAIN GETS STRONGER!!!

With that being said, this quote just perfect for you ...."Either you deal with what is the reality, or you can be sure that the reality is going to deal with you!"

Surrendering means letting go of what does not serve you. It is actually a strength, a wisdom, a growth and an awareness of something higher. I am beginning to open myself up again and surrender and it feels great and very freeing. I am choosing happiness over being right!


I AM SMART....I AM STRONG ....AND I AM BEAUTIFUL!!!

Wishing you Loads of Happiness.....

Love and Peace,
Ann

I Love this Quotes!!!

"Either you deal with what is the reality,
or you can be sure that the reality is going to deal with you!"

"You grow up the day you have
your first real laugh--at yourself."


"Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things.
The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions:
could have, might have, and should have."

What is the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity? Our attitude toward it. Every opportunity has a difficulty, and every difficulty has an opportunity."~


If you don’t have a vision, then your reality will always be determined by other’s perceptions.”

"A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do."


“Planning is a real waste of time.... for those who waste time.”

If you start to think the problem is ‘out there,’ stop yourself. That thought is the problem."

"The Greatest Barrier to Finding True Love"

"The greatest barrier to finding true Love is your own negativity, hurt, pain, fear and Darkness.
It may have had its beginnings in past hurts, abuses and disappointments but once you take them on and within, they become yours.
Negativity is like a toxic material emits a hidden radioactive material often unseen by the naked eye.

You and those around you experience the symptoms but most often do not understand the source and origin.
So in pursuing Love, it cannot be hidden, concealed, masked or perpetrated.

The healing must be real, tangible, authentic and organic.
The ugly and evil of the pass will come back to haunt and hurt when undiagnosed and neglected.
It is never too late to learn.

Sixty-five, seventy-five or even eighty is not too late to experience true Love; it is never too late to do the necessary self-work.
But mean, hateful and ornery (even well masked and hidden) will insure an unfavorable result.
Not everyone will heed my words.

You are married to your trauma. You’re comfortable with your hurt, pain and fear.
it has become a part of you and you have gained a familiarity.
Separation from it presents the anxieties and disillusions of the mysteries of the unknown.

Heal yourself and Love will be drawn to your Light and Magnetism.
Heal yourself and others will be healed with you."

( I am in an AWE on this one! My jaw dropped while reading this column. There is definitely a ring of truth into it. Very Beautiful! Yes, as we heal ourselves . . . it radiates out and heals others . . . wouldn't it be wonderful if it could all take place over night!
But I do Believe in MIRACLES, IT CAN manifest over night IF only we could just get out of the way. - Ann )

8/21 ...Ann, On this day, God wants you to know ... that your pains are God's way to rouse you from slumber. Pain is your wake-up call to awaken, to look deeper into yourself, to adjust the course of your life. God tries to be as gentle as possible, and only if you ignore the call does the pain get stronger.

Speaking Your Truth

(An Amazing Blog sent to me and I want to share- This is making alot of sense!)

When one hears the words "speak your truth" the first thing that comes to mind is to tell it like it is when communicating with others. Absolutely correct! However, the concept of "speaking your truth" goes beyond being forthright with dealing with others. It also applies to being honest with yourself. If people are hesitant to speak their truth with others, they are even more afraid to delve into their own truth and this leads to many of the difficulties a person encounters in their adult lives.

Once we are no longer children, we are free to choose how we want to handle our truths. Problems become magnified when we hide from what is true for us. These problems can manifest themselves into depression, excessive drinking or other addictive behaviors as we seek to hide our truth. In reality there are no real addictions other than the addiction to fear which can lead to addictive behavior.

I read an interesting article that pointed out that some who suffer from depression are people who are actually suppressing their psychic abilities. We all have physic abilities, it's a matter of how well developed they are and how much you choose to develop them. Just as the mind needs to be developed and fed knowledge, so the spirit needs to grow and express. If spirit is suppressed (especially when the soul is older in experience such as the higher life paths), depression is manifested and from there ego is in control. With ego comes fear. The only way to break the cycle is through the search for your truth. Once you allow the truth into your consciousness, abundance will flow into your life as you draw to yourself that which your soul truly desires.

The law of attraction works whether you choose to draw negative or positive things into your life and if you are in a place of negative, those are the experiences and people you will draw to yourself. A person who has spoken the truth to themselves exudes an outward calm and possesses an inward joy. You can feel their sense of peace and see how they live their life in balance. These people also have an innate acceptance of others with no demands made on others to fit certain expectations. Their motto may well be "live and let live" but they are also willing to assist if asked.


****This is a Great Blog ,indeed! Very well said. It helps me see clearly and understand even more how some people act the way they act. It is true, that alot of feelings that were supresses during childhood can affects one's life especially in their adult years where things gets more messier and complicated. Plus growing up in a very negative environment that's not even help at all - a person must be very tormented inside,spritually i suppose. I once was told a person needs to heal. For some, healing seems to be impossible but it can be achieved but a person has to go through alot of winding and rough roads it will be worth it only if they're willing to get some help nor even try. It definitely is , Speaking the Truth! - Ann ****

Great Blog from a Friend

LIES, LIES, LIES - and the WHY of LIES!

You KNOW he's lying to you, yet he's doing it with such sincerity, that it makes you doubt- just for a moment - that perhaps he isn't. But, your intuition kicks in, and the pieces fall together and it makes more sense to you than ever that he IS lying. And it hurts. Why does it hurt? Because he thinks you're dumb enough to believe him, or, that he doesn't respect you enough to tell you the truth?

So, why is it, that PEOPLE lie? In my rudimentary research, I believe I've found the answer. First, there are 3 types of "lies" that people will tell.

1. A "White" lie. This is merely not saying truth about something that isn't all that "significant". A "white" lie scenario is: You get your hair cut. It's not exactly the best look for you, but you may hear all kinds of complements about it.

2. Omission Lie. An omission lie is withholding pertinent information to maybe spare feelings, or covering up action that one may feel guilty about. An "Omission" lie scenario is: "Yes, I went to have a few drinks with friends". What you're not told is that the ex was there and they had some serious conversation, but this can be justified because she/he is a "friend" (okay, a friend for now).

3. Blatant Lie. This is the worst kind. Not only is information withheld from you that will assist you in connecting the dots, but the truth is clearly distorted to redirect guilt that the person telling you the lie may have. We all know blatant lies, I don't need to provide a scenario, but I will. "I had a flat tire and had to go into the bar to see if someone would help. It took a while, but I made it home okay. I'll see you tomorrow". Obviously, no flat tire, he/she spent the night with the ex, and stood you up. When you question a blatant liar, you'll receive a very defensive - often times violent reaction. "How dare you question MY integrity???".

People lie for all kinds of reasons MOST of the time to JUSTIFY in their warped mind the actions they chose. The bottom line is that it is EASIER to tell a lie than it is to tell the truth. Telling a lie dismisses the need for a lengthy explanation, and avoids exposure. If you allow the liar in your life to slip with even a "white lie", it can and often does progress further. (ie: if she/he is gullible enough to believe this, then why not get away with more?).

I know this much: it hurt like the dickens when I finally cut my hair after 20 years. My guy said to me, "gee it's short". Not the response I was looking for, but hey- he was honest. Sometimes, honesty bites. However, look at it this way: if your partner is honest with you at a very personal level you know you can trust that partner in ALL aspects.


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Great Blog , I love it!!
Coming from a Woman or a (ex) Wife who had been LIED to and CHEATED on . Through my experienced when I confronted an ex about his deceptions. They were accomplished by omitting truths so that he could purposely mislead me. To me a lie by omission; as in this case, can be just as bad as a blatant lie. The purpose of either kind of lie is the deception part or to mislead the other. A deception is a deception no matter how it is achieved and it is a wrong thing to do....period.

My favorite quote is by William Blake *The truth when told with bad intent, is worse than lies you could invent*

Kudos my friend!

Ann

( My daughter told me about this song and it's funny!)

Want to know how to STOP paying for the SINS of the EX??!!!

Are you paying for the sins from a previous relationship? Is your significant other pressing your buttons to validate that you are going to react/act like the ex??? If you are, then read on:

Little red flags that you have no clue about will pop up. You are simply being yourself, enjoying the relationship, then suddenly - boom - you say or do something without realizing that you've pressed a major hot button that someone else pressed and it ends up being a deal breaker.

I know, I know - you're thinking "hunh???" Because it all seems so perfectly innocent to you, yet your partner starts to go ballistic; ranting and raving about how he "swore he'd never allow this to happen again". (All the while you're wondering "what???").

Try as hard as you want to convince your partner that YOU are not the one who had a house fall on your sister, that you don't understand the sins of the previous relationship, that you ARE different - and yet, your partner insists that there is no difference, you're all "alike" as far as he is concerned.

Is this fair? No. Is he being emotionally protective? Yes. Your partner tries desperately not to relive the past, yet every opportunity that comes up that even remotely resembles the past YOU get the brunt of his relationship hangover issues - usually in the form of him/her running away from you. Real Men call this "cave time". Real Women are just confused by the action.

Hang in there. It will be worth it if you can demonstrate to him, through time, TONS of patience, and your reactions (or non reactions) that you ARE different. You are YOU, and you handle issues that arise with a more mature mind-set.
Of course you realize that you're signing up for a lot of work.....especially if you're with a truly emotionally damaged person. I believe that you CAN teach your partner to be present in the relationship without over-reacting. How? Simply lead by example. Let your partner SEE that you aren't going to over-react, or run out the first opportunity you get. Show YOUR partner that you aren't the drama queen he's accustomed to.... YOU are of sound mind and body... and you have no flying monkeys to unleash....


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My Friends,

We all have baggage from previous relationships but like the airlines are now doing, we do not need so much extra baggage that we are being charged extra for it...we are supposed to learn from things so we do not have to repeat them...and we have to figure out what our dealbreakers are....

I also should've noted that there are people out there who will initially make their new mate pay for their ex's sins, but will move passed their issues if you've gotten with them when they're ready for that relationship.

When someone doesn't see the results of their efforts (patience, understanding etc...) in a reasonable timeframe, then yes, GET OUT if it doesn't work for you. You can't change someone's perspective if they're not willing to do the work or meet you half way (at the very least), in my opinion.

Our personal deal breakers and standards do come into play when making a decision about a situation like this. I guess the answer to, "Is it worth it?" lies within the individual dealing with this stuff.

If the guy/girl is really into you, they will do the work to separate you from their ex.

( Ok Am i making some people raised their eyebrows here???? - LOL)

Stay Cool....
God Bless you all!

Love and Peace,
Antonette Dominick

In my thoughts...

"It is not easy to stay with your loneliness. …. But when you can acknowledge your loneliness in a safe, contained place, you make your pain available for God’s healing.

God does not want your loneliness;

God wants to touch you in a way that permanently fulfills your deepest need.

It is important that you dare to stay with your pain and allow it to be there. You have to own your loneliness and trust that it will not always be there.

The pain you suffer now is meant to put you in touch with the place where you most need healing, your very heart….Dare to stay with your pain,

and trust in God’s promise to you."

Love and Peace,
Ann

I just recieved this on my facebook:

Ann , On this day, God wants you to know ... that every little part of you is magical. Yes, even the parts that hurt, even the ones that are feeling disease right now. It's alright to love what is in pain. More than alright, that's exactly where your love is needed the most. So why not touch that part that hur...ts and smile at it, at yourself through it, and whisper: ''I love you.''

Quote of the day

"Placing the blame or judgment on someone else,

leaves you powerless to change your experience.

Taking responsability for your beliefs and judgments

gives you the power to change them."


Peace,
Ann

A MOTHER'S UNDYING LOVE AND DEVOTION TO HER 5 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN

I brought you into this world to teach you
things like hope and faith and love.
I hope I can instill values in your life
and give you all the above.

Though I may fail because I'm human
I hope those times far between and few.
When I realize that I must let go
may I remember this day with you.

I held you as my precious child
in arms that were showered with tears.
I prayed for strength you'd grow up
conquering your pain and all your fears.

I hope I can be there always for you
through the good and bad in life.
I must allow you fight your own battles
and remember to stand aside.

I know you must grow up on your own
and I can only guide you along each day.
Some things in life you'll decide alone
allowing wisdom to lead the way.

So on this day my precious one
Remember that Moms are human too.
When you're all grownup-just remember..
I'll always see the child within you.


NOTHING ON EARTH CAN COMPARE NOR CAN REPLACE THE LIVES, THE JOY, THE LAUGHTERS AND THE TEARS THAT MY CHILDREN HAVE BROUGHT INTO MY LIFE....
I WILL ALWAYS GIVE THEM UNCONDITIONAL LOVE TIL I DIE.

MY CHILDREN ARE MY LIFE,MY PRIDE AND JOY.
Love Always,
Mom

Keep it Simple Stupid! ( KISS )

Time after time I am reminded of this simple truth. Treat others they way you want to be treated...THE GOLDEN RULE. This is the ultimate spiritual law that we must all abide by becuse it is directly related to karma.
There are three spiritual Laws we must always remember when we are dealing with another human being:

The Law of Retribution plus the law of Compensation equals the Law of Karma. It is simple but we make it complicated.

Law of Retribution... The phrase, "an eye for an eye",is a quotation from several passages of the Hebrew Bible in which a person who has injured the eye of another is instructed to give the value of his or her own eye in compensation. At the root of this principle is that one of the purposes of the law is to provide equitable retribution for an offended party. It defined and restricted. ( so sad but it's true this as i recall, a law that has been practicing for so many years back home in the Philippines-somehow, sometimes that's the only justice you can get. You take one of my family member - i will take one of yours...fair enough!)

Law of Compensation..."We reap what we sow"... Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 ~ 1882) explains compensation in clear terms: “For everything you have missed, you have gained something else; and for everything you gain, you lose something else.”

“The whole of what we know is a system of compensations. Every defect in one manner is made up in another. Every suffering is rewarded; every sacrifice is made up; every debt is paid.”

Law of Karma The Law of Retribution plus the law of Compensation equals the Law of Karma...the law of cause and effect.

Its is simple but we make it complicated.

I hope you guys enjoying your weekend, always be safe.

Love and Peace,
Ann

Desire To Be Great, Want More For Yourselves & Put You First in Relationship Matters

I am here to offer support and steward my influence to assist you in your daily lives.

Many times we find the relationships we are in have difficulties and challenges. The first step is to understand why these things happen. How do you go about doing that you ask? Begin by taking a first look at yourself. Take a sheet a paper and write down the good qualities you have as well as the qualities you need to work on. On another sheet of paper, write down how your significant other treats you in the relationship. Doing this will help you to understand how your carrying yourself in the relationship and it will show you how you are teaching people how to treat you.

When we have this in writing, we can see it....it is the truth about ourselves, no one has given us this information. The second step is to now develop ourselves into being the women God has made us to be.

Every morning, wake up and have a conversation with God. Thank him for what you have regardless if its less than what you like. Begin to speak Favor over your life, doing so will make positive action occur in your life.

***Your words have power over your life and the lives you touch***

Examples:

God , Thank you for giving me 5 Beautiful Children.

God, thank you for favor my family and I are in good health.

God, thank you I have favor to be employed.

God, thank you for favor that I'm able to have good relationships with others

God, thank you for favor that I'm able to help those in need.

These are examples that can bring positive faith action into your life, move mountains (challenge blocks that may be preventing you from moving forward) and help renew your Faith.

These are the 1st steps for you to begin a new process in your life, a process to overcome the areas where you have been stalled in.

Let me know what you think....

May God Bless You All.

Love and Peace,
Ann

Ann's Own Daily Mantra and Affirmation

Dear God, I am ready to have a relationship
with a wonderful person,
who truly gets me, loves me, adores me,
and is ready to build a life with me.


I know in my heart there is a special person out there for me.
My name is written across his heart.
Please put me on the right track toward true love.
and lead me to a place of committed love.


I am willing to work on myself and
To make myself ready for love.
Please grant me the power
to look at love through spiritual eyes,
And to remain sincere about
finding and maintaining the relationship I have longed for.


A Divine love is working through me now in creating perfect nurturing, soul connecting lovemaking between ME and The RIGHT Person God has chosen for Me to Spend the rest of My Life.

And I know in my heart this will happen very soon....Once i get to the place where i wanted to be , Everything will fall into place as God had promised. I will have the kind of LIFE I always wanted , in Jesus name. It's time to get my Life Back together , and it's A Promise!!!

Love and Peace,
Ann
****Rejoice, It's NEW MOON!!! Cast your Spells!!! This will be Good ****

(I love this song , it's kinda like the newer version of I will Survive!)

Your Needs can be met, STOP making the master of YOU

LONELY-UNINSPIRED-ANGRY-WEAK-TIRED-BURNT

NEEDS- A topic,that seems very much on the bottom of discussion,feelings
which we now call "emotions" have lost power,and our society is based on CONSUME-ACHIEVE-WIN-EGO...instead of NURTURE,PROTECT,COMPASSION.



FATHERS-/mothers STEPFATHERS-PARENTALS

Along the way,we get our basic information of LOVE,and NEEDS,by our

caretakers,or lack of. If you passively think,about how often :

1. Were you complmented on your being good

2.HUGGED for no reason,stroked ,kissed for just being cute

3.Spoken to with high esteem,asked "how are you sweety?"

4.Allowed to FEEL,yell,cry,speak out with your feelings???encouraged?

INTO ADULTHOOD

Now you seek a love partnership,and your wondering,how you got into the patterns,even though the DR phil ..of today can "teach" us psychology
I believe to be painfully honest,you need to soul-search on WHAT FEELS GOOD.
Its like we FORGET,OR DON'T HAVE reference to FEELING GOOD,SAFE
once we get shuffled into SELF-DEPRECIATION we take a NOSE-DIVE with
all our relationships..from WORK-PLAY-LOVE-CAREER ASSOCIATIONS-FAMILY


CO-DEPENDENCE AND CORUPT HEARTS

So,you say "I need him" (her) to DETERMINE my DAY...and maybe WEEKS
of this "holding onto a mental rollercoaster emotional mess" before allowing FREEDOM OF EMOTIONS maybe even remaining TENSE,STOMACH PAINS,NOT EATING,OR OVER-INDULGING to cover your own insecurities of BEING IN YOUR OWN SKIN.
Hangin on every word,text,letter,facebook, keeping tabs..to REGULATE your
own sense of BALANCE IS INSANE!!! Thats like ALLOWING the powers
to DICTATE your life..might as well go to prison..and they can tell you what to EAT,PEE,SLEEP,THINK,DO,WALK,...????


IF THIS MAKES YOU Pi***what is written here

GOOD. at least your waking up,to the WEAKNESS your allowing your body,mind,soul
to project to the world. WHAT WE BROADCAST is a STORY and we walk all day and night "talking to humanity" with our language not words....but our "insecurities"
You may wonder why...if you look around..not only have you GIVEN YOUR STRENGTH
to another person,you may have done it OVER AND OVER with 1. PARENTS,DOCTORS,FRIENDS,CO-WORKERS,CLERKS,POLICE..MEDIA


LOOKING FOR LOVE ??? WHY?

Why are you looking. LOVE IS YOU. LOVE IS NOT FROM HIM,HER..ITS FROM YOU. If you don't get that..your in for a VERY PAINFUL earth journey.
if you cannot start your day with HEART BASED BELIEF of SELF-WORTH
you are setting yourself up for PAIN,HEARTACHE,ABUSE,AND SO FORTH
I am not saying you need to be NARRISSTIC,we all have faults.and we judge ourselves
but try the very simple exercise in the next paragraph.


TOOLS FROM THE ANGEL FOR YOU

1. Watch your words you say to yourself..stop negative self-talk.

2. WATCH- how you take or give compliments,say sorry,or not admit faults

3. DON'T MAKE others MORE priority...don't chase people,don't wait to feel good.

4. TAKE RESPONSIBILTY if your blue,depressed,its NOT HIS,HER,FAULT

5.NOBODY can make you anything. ( this is a hard lesson) you determine your own

feelings,and decide if your angry,or just be mellow...in reactions.

6. BE PRO-ACTIVE, if your not getting CARED FOR,RESPONSE,CALLS,OR

returned affection..maybe you need MORE. be honest. its not there fault.

7. ASK FOR LOVE,ATTENTION without being 5 yrs old ,be sincere,fair.speak in
adult terms " I would love to hear from you" I enjoyed our last talk,your wonderful
instead of WHY? HOW" HOW COME" IF YOU DON'T CALL" WHERE R YOU?

GUESS YOUR BUSY( SARCASTIC) GUESS YOUR NOT ANSWERING( ALSO ANGRY) if you do this,then switch back from sweet to angry its called PASSIVE AGRESSIVE. thats just a lousy game,and will undermine your relationships.

8. CHANGE YOURSELF. stop "training"forceing,demanding,yelling,manipulating,,and look in the mirror!!!Are you bold enough to call yourself on your own baggage!

SO WHY WOULD RATHER SUFFER NOW AND PERHAPS,SOMEDAY DIE ALONE AND LONELY. WHY???

I'm just venting out, that's all.

Love,
Ann

Happy Monday!

The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that

they always see the past better than it was,

the present worse than it is,

and the future less resolved than it will be.


I just learned to let things go and live a happy Life.

Love and Peace,
Ann

Give and You will Get....

If you want more love, then give more love. It's not easy
to give to someone when you're not getting 'something' you
need from that someone.

If you truly desire a real change, someone must decide to take action,
and if you're reading this right now, then this is your sign that you are
'the one' to take the action, to initiate the change.

Have you ever noticed that when you smile as you approach a
stranger s/he will smile back? The same is true about giving more
of what you want than giving more of what you don't want. Try this today, you will see that in doing so, it will indeed bring you love.

Love and Peace,
Ann

Quote that is True

"However good or bad you feel about your relationship,

the person you are with at this moment is the "right" person,

because he or she is the mirror of who you are inside."

And Someday, I'll meet a Wonderful and Caring Man, that him and I have had many of the same experiences in life and if that is a mirror of who I Am...then I Am thankful for who I Am.


Love and Peace,
Ann

PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE & LOVE (Re-Post)

Why do we close our eyes when we sleep? When we cry?
When we imagine? When we kiss? This is because
the most beautiful thing in the world is unseen.

We are a little weird and life's a little weird
and when we find someone whose weirdness is
compatible with ours, we join up with them and
fall into mutual weirdness and call it "LOVE"

There are things that we never want to let go of,
people we never want to leave behind, but keep in mind
that letting go isn't the end of the world,
its the beginning of a new life!

Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt,
those who have searched, and those who have tried.
For only they can appreciate the importance of
the people who have touched their lives.

A great love? Its when you shed tears and still
you care for her. Its when she begins to love another and
yet, you still smile and say "I'm happy for you."

If love fails, set yourself free, let your heart spread
it's wings, and fly again. Remember, you may find love
and lose it, but it's when love dies, you never
have to die with it.

The strongest people are not those who always win
but those who stand back up when they fall.
Somehow, along the course of life, you learn about
yourself and realize, there should never be regrets,
only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you made.

A true friend understands when you say "I forgot",
waits forever when you say "Just a minute!"
stays when you say "Leave me alone!"
opens the door even before you knock
and say "Can I come in."

Loving is not how you forget, but how you forgive,
not how you listen, but how you understand.
Not what you see, but how you feel, and
not how you let go, but how you hold on.

It is more dangerous to weep inwardly, rather than
outwardly. Outward tears can be wiped away,
while secret tears scar forever.

In love, very rarely do we win, but when love is true,
even if you lose, you still win just for having the
tingle of loving someone more than you love
yourself.

There comes a time when we have to stop loving someone
not because that person has stopped loving us,
but because we have found out that they'd be happier
if we let go.

It's best to wait for the one you want,
than settle for one that's available.
Best to wait for the one you love,
than for one who's around.
Best to wait for the right one because
life's too short to waste on just someone.

Sometimes, the one you love turns out to be the one
who hurts you the most, and sometimes the friend
who takes you into her arms and cries when you cry
turns out to be the love you never knew you wanted.

(A Comment from a Long Lost Dear Friend Who Served in the Desert Storm- SEMPER FI! )

Dec.2008
Ann,

I don't usually write on things like this but i have to make an exception to this one. After reading this I want to say a couple of things that I hold true and dear. First and foremost, I hope that your father is doing well and that he lives to see your children grow around him with many memories to cherish for years to come. As for the the whole love thing, its really simple to me. Love is a vision of happiness that has presented itself in a way that you have created through all of the experiences that you have had in your life.

The opportunity "to love" has presented itself and now you're going to reap the rewards of all that you wanted "to love". The only problem with this is that we don't account for the way the other person will treat us and if they are not aware of this, they hurt us. They hurt us for one of two reasons. They have no knowledge of what they are doing to us, or they know how much we have committed "to love" and they take advantage of that. TO ME, that is all that love is. Sure, there are other little intangibles that make up love but it all breaks down to these two things for me. I wish you love and happiness within your family and all those that you hold dear. Happy New Year Ann

Antonio.


Aug 2010
Tony,

Thank you for your Kind Words.I still remembered how you always express your emotions on things. I am so Happy for you -having such a wonderful family. Well, Your Statement is sooo Correct! Often people hurting other individuals with "the same pain" they have themselves. I think there are two kind of people who are behaving this way. One kind is aware what he/she is doing. The other kind is not aware of their action. As a result being in contact with such individuals it is natural to get hurt,to feel angry.With all of that one should try not to feel as a victim. Easier to say than done.One of the way to reach this stability is to be deeply aware of your own issues and not feeling guilty about it. Those who inflict pain do so out of their own lack of love for themselves.I've always felt that when we criticize or judge someone, we are really looking at the mirror at something we don't like about ourselves!

Unfortunately that there are people out there who is very inconsiderate about how others feel but themselves.I wished they just have to know things and do it the right way and not purposely hurting those people who loves and cares for them.
Oh well my opinion - They don't deserve any Love , If they don't know how give it back- fair enough ,right.LoL. (Ok that's the other side of Ann you never knew-haha just kiddin')
Lastly, I've been hurt pretty bad with people i really do love with all my heart but that will never change a Loving and Compassionate ME.

It is hard as a giver to never receive. So therefore, I chose to Let them Go!

Ann

Age Related Dramas

When we are children we have drama on the playground . . . there is the pecking order . . . and we learn. But we are mostly concerned for the love of our adults, teachers, and parents.

When we are in High School we have drama, and the concern of what our peers are thinking and doing plays a major role in our lives. . . and the seriousness of the social order picks up in the ratings . . . as our future plans may be at stake. We win and we lose and we learn . . .

In our 20's we practice what we have learned of the losing and winning . . . and our life path is beginning to form from those losses or wins in our drama and manipulations. We are still learning but more learning how to perfect the game. Our peers are beginning to be not SO important, although they are important to us.

In our 30's we are the experts at drama! And we don't really care about peers, adults, or anyone else's role in the drama . . . we are the main character! The star of the show.
In our 40's we are beginning to weary of the game, and the wins don't seem worth it and the losses definitely are NOT worth the energy of the drama and games. We can see further than the end of our nose! And we know we don't know EVERYTHING about EVERYONE . . . and we realize we really don't want to know it all . . . and that is OK!

If your in your 50's and your still playing drama games . . . you need to have your head EXAMINED!! Cause by this age . . . we come to realize that life has a path that is pretty much already laid out as asphalt . . . no matter what drama is going on around us . . . it is what it is . . .

LOL!!!

In our 60's we watch others play drama and enjoy the show from the road side, and if some SMART drama king or queen ask us for guidance we are happy to share our experience.
OK . . . I just got a call from a love one to remind me . . . that there is another factor in here . . . If we have been frozen in a stage of our drama . . . it can become our personality . . . for instance . . .

The 60 year old man who still loves his wife, or significant other, and would do anything to have that security of their love . . . although he may have one foot in the grave, and the other up his behind . . . as he makes comments about how lovely the nurses tits are!!!
:)

Just giving you something to think about when it comes to drama and manipulations . . . they are an indication of maturity.

I AM KIND AND LOVING PERSON . . . HURT ME!!!

I've always been the kind of person who someone knocks on the door and I answer the door without peeking though the peek hole. Open the door wide and let them in . . . heck, sometimes I have been guilty of giving them the baseball bat and say, "HURT ME!"

Then stagger, heal with confusion that anyone would hurt someone like me!!!

So as I learn to DISCERN people on a scale of one (1) to ten (10), I have learned to lock that door, peek through the peek hole, and quietly walk away from the knocking door that remains locked.

What I have learned is that not EVERYONE is a TRUTH seeker! Amazing!!! But true!

I have learned about the "What about ME people"

Examples of what about me people . . .

1, Call only when they need you, never able to take a call when you need them.
2. Liars, thieves, rapist, all the evil doers.
3. Basically, the all about them and no one else people . . . psychopaths.

Definition of psychopath:

A person with an antisocial personality disorder, manifested in aggressive, perverted, criminal, or immoral behavior without empathy or remorse.

I don't know why, having a minor in psychology, I didn't get this lesson before. I just always thought this was a fictitious trait of a person who would be locked up in a mental institute and I would always be protected.

But what I have learned is that there are all kinds of psychopath traits in people all over the place!!! Not everybody is kind and loving!!!

LOL!!!

So what do I wear on my BIG FAT forehead now???

"I AM KIND AND LOVING AND I UNDERSTAND THE 'what about me people' AND THEY/YOU ARE NOT GOING TO HURT ME"

You don't need a baseball bat, just quietly keep the locked door closed and ignore the banging, they will find someone else to victimize. Sad but true . . .

You have to make yourself number one . . . sooner or later, you learn, you come into the world alone And chances are your going to leave the world alone . .

Love and Peace,
Ann

The Back and Forth Lover ( A Roller Coaster Ride)

I have heard that relationships are a subtle dance between two people but I think that some take this sentiment WAY too far.
There seems to be a rash of men who suddenly go from warm and inviting, wanting you and the relationship to being "unsure" "confused" and otherwise distant, pushing you away.

Sound familiar?
I thought so.

Men typically will take what they can get, and if they can get it without having to give back or otherwise alter their lives to make room for you and their needs, they will do that too.
But this begs the question of just how the heck are they able to get so much whilst giving so little?

Its frustrating to be in a relationship where its one emotional roller coaster after another. One moment you are up, the next you are down! One moment all is right as rain and you think a corner has been turned and then the next he tells you he doesn't know what he wants. Trouble is, he does know what he wants and also what he doesn't. If he wanted all of you, lock, stock, and barrel and was prepared to give as much as he took he would have done so by now. Granted, there are exceptions to this rule, and sometimes they just need a swift kick in the butt to get moving, but generally speaking if you are busy giving to a fault and he is taking your giving more isn't going to change this pattern

As women we are doers...we want something we go for it. We see a problem, we fix it, even if it means swallowing our pride or otherwise compromising so as to keep the peace. Typically this would be an amazing quality, when employed correctly!
When employed incorrectly, say for someone who cannot see to decide if they are in or if they are out, it ends up setting up a pattern where they feel quite free to come and go as they please. If you are intent on giving you feed their intent to take. If you allow them to waltz through the door after going MIA again you are inviting them to leave again.

You do not deserve someone who is around when its convenient for them, or when they need something. You do not deserve someone who suddenly goes MIA when you start to address the imbalance or speak of evolution between you two. You deserve someone who is going to give, as consistently and ardently, as you do.
Its one thing to compromise, its another thing to compromise yourself. You can sit back taking all of this back and forth, hot and cold on the chin but in the end you will end up bruised and mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted. Never place a relationship with another above the one you have with yourself. If you are not being treated with respect and fairness do not sit back and take it! You have to be your own advocate!

Besides, Do you really want a so called " Man " like that in your life???
You'd better off without it, right?!
But Seriously, You are way too much better than him obviously "Men" like that, Is very insecure about themselves that is why they run away all the time they'd rather make you feel like Crap before they do. So Immature!!!

BE BRAVE.... BE BEAUTIFUL....BE SMART!!!


Love and Peace,
Ann