LONELY-UNINSPIRED-ANGRY-WEAK-TIRED-BURNT
NEEDS- A topic,that seems very much on the bottom of discussion,feelings
which we now call "emotions" have lost power,and our society is based on CONSUME-ACHIEVE-WIN-EGO...instead of NURTURE,PROTECT,COMPASSION.
FATHERS-/mothers STEPFATHERS-PARENTALS
Along the way,we get our basic information of LOVE,and NEEDS,by our
caretakers,or lack of. If you passively think,about how often :
1. Were you complmented on your being good
2.HUGGED for no reason,stroked ,kissed for just being cute
3.Spoken to with high esteem,asked "how are you sweety?"
4.Allowed to FEEL,yell,cry,speak out with your feelings???encouraged?
INTO ADULTHOOD
Now you seek a love partnership,and your wondering,how you got into the patterns,even though the DR phil ..of today can "teach" us psychology
I believe to be painfully honest,you need to soul-search on WHAT FEELS GOOD.
Its like we FORGET,OR DON'T HAVE reference to FEELING GOOD,SAFE
once we get shuffled into SELF-DEPRECIATION we take a NOSE-DIVE with
all our relationships..from WORK-PLAY-LOVE-CAREER ASSOCIATIONS-FAMILY
CO-DEPENDENCE AND CORUPT HEARTS
So,you say "I need him" (her) to DETERMINE my DAY...and maybe WEEKS
of this "holding onto a mental rollercoaster emotional mess" before allowing FREEDOM OF EMOTIONS maybe even remaining TENSE,STOMACH PAINS,NOT EATING,OR OVER-INDULGING to cover your own insecurities of BEING IN YOUR OWN SKIN.
Hangin on every word,text,letter,facebook, keeping tabs..to REGULATE your
own sense of BALANCE IS INSANE!!! Thats like ALLOWING the powers
to DICTATE your life..might as well go to prison..and they can tell you what to EAT,PEE,SLEEP,THINK,DO,WALK,...????
IF THIS MAKES YOU Pi***what is written here
GOOD. at least your waking up,to the WEAKNESS your allowing your body,mind,soul
to project to the world. WHAT WE BROADCAST is a STORY and we walk all day and night "talking to humanity" with our language not words....but our "insecurities"
You may wonder why...if you look around..not only have you GIVEN YOUR STRENGTH
to another person,you may have done it OVER AND OVER with 1. PARENTS,DOCTORS,FRIENDS,CO-WORKERS,CLERKS,POLICE..MEDIA
LOOKING FOR LOVE ??? WHY?
Why are you looking. LOVE IS YOU. LOVE IS NOT FROM HIM,HER..ITS FROM YOU. If you don't get that..your in for a VERY PAINFUL earth journey.
if you cannot start your day with HEART BASED BELIEF of SELF-WORTH
you are setting yourself up for PAIN,HEARTACHE,ABUSE,AND SO FORTH
I am not saying you need to be NARRISSTIC,we all have faults.and we judge ourselves
but try the very simple exercise in the next paragraph.
TOOLS FROM THE ANGEL FOR YOU
1. Watch your words you say to yourself..stop negative self-talk.
2. WATCH- how you take or give compliments,say sorry,or not admit faults
3. DON'T MAKE others MORE priority...don't chase people,don't wait to feel good.
4. TAKE RESPONSIBILTY if your blue,depressed,its NOT HIS,HER,FAULT
5.NOBODY can make you anything. ( this is a hard lesson) you determine your own
feelings,and decide if your angry,or just be mellow...in reactions.
6. BE PRO-ACTIVE, if your not getting CARED FOR,RESPONSE,CALLS,OR
returned affection..maybe you need MORE. be honest. its not there fault.
7. ASK FOR LOVE,ATTENTION without being 5 yrs old ,be sincere,fair.speak in
adult terms " I would love to hear from you" I enjoyed our last talk,your wonderful
instead of WHY? HOW" HOW COME" IF YOU DON'T CALL" WHERE R YOU?
GUESS YOUR BUSY( SARCASTIC) GUESS YOUR NOT ANSWERING( ALSO ANGRY) if you do this,then switch back from sweet to angry its called PASSIVE AGRESSIVE. thats just a lousy game,and will undermine your relationships.
8. CHANGE YOURSELF. stop "training"forceing,demanding,yelling,manipulating,,and look in the mirror!!!Are you bold enough to call yourself on your own baggage!
SO WHY WOULD RATHER SUFFER NOW AND PERHAPS,SOMEDAY DIE ALONE AND LONELY. WHY???
I'm just venting out, that's all.
Love,
Ann
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