I have heard that relationships are a subtle dance between two people but I think that some take this sentiment WAY too far.
There seems to be a rash of men who suddenly go from warm and inviting, wanting you and the relationship to being "unsure" "confused" and otherwise distant, pushing you away.
Sound familiar?
I thought so.
Men typically will take what they can get, and if they can get it without having to give back or otherwise alter their lives to make room for you and their needs, they will do that too.
But this begs the question of just how the heck are they able to get so much whilst giving so little?
Its frustrating to be in a relationship where its one emotional roller coaster after another. One moment you are up, the next you are down! One moment all is right as rain and you think a corner has been turned and then the next he tells you he doesn't know what he wants. Trouble is, he does know what he wants and also what he doesn't. If he wanted all of you, lock, stock, and barrel and was prepared to give as much as he took he would have done so by now. Granted, there are exceptions to this rule, and sometimes they just need a swift kick in the butt to get moving, but generally speaking if you are busy giving to a fault and he is taking your giving more isn't going to change this pattern
As women we are doers...we want something we go for it. We see a problem, we fix it, even if it means swallowing our pride or otherwise compromising so as to keep the peace. Typically this would be an amazing quality, when employed correctly!
When employed incorrectly, say for someone who cannot see to decide if they are in or if they are out, it ends up setting up a pattern where they feel quite free to come and go as they please. If you are intent on giving you feed their intent to take. If you allow them to waltz through the door after going MIA again you are inviting them to leave again.
You do not deserve someone who is around when its convenient for them, or when they need something. You do not deserve someone who suddenly goes MIA when you start to address the imbalance or speak of evolution between you two. You deserve someone who is going to give, as consistently and ardently, as you do.
Its one thing to compromise, its another thing to compromise yourself. You can sit back taking all of this back and forth, hot and cold on the chin but in the end you will end up bruised and mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted. Never place a relationship with another above the one you have with yourself. If you are not being treated with respect and fairness do not sit back and take it! You have to be your own advocate!
Besides, Do you really want a so called " Man " like that in your life???
You'd better off without it, right?!
But Seriously, You are way too much better than him obviously "Men" like that, Is very insecure about themselves that is why they run away all the time they'd rather make you feel like Crap before they do. So Immature!!!
BE BRAVE.... BE BEAUTIFUL....BE SMART!!!
Love and Peace,
Ann
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