Love is a decision, a decision to expand and not contract, to treat others as you would like to be treated, to not mislead or deliberately hurt others. Love is not sex and is not games. It is HONEST, generous and pure. It exposes itself in face of a risk of being rejected. It does not enable hypocracy. Love communicates.
Love would be responsible enough, and would love enough, to offer closure to someone if feelings and desires changed instead of playing games with peoples feelings or through provoking a break-up or disappearing or being unfaithful. If a lover was unsure what s/he wanted, with love they could be open and honest allowing the other to make a decision based on what the lover was open, honest and ready for. Love is also honest enough to ask what someone else wants or needs and express what they want or need without trying to prevent being abandoned, for those who cling but never seek closure or answers then holding resentments or hurts for expectations that were based in fantasy because they never opened communication enough to test if they were real.
A true player cares only for himself and his feelings and avoids honesty and confrontation. A player is disloyal, deceiving, or pulls a disappear act not wanting to handle someone elses questions hurt or confrontation.
If you care, be bold with it. If you don't, let the person know directly and let them move on.
A true player runs from responsibility in love... whether it's due to fear, self-sabotage or that they are simply moving on to the next conquest or rush...
Lastly, love doesnt offer excuses after the fact (not calling, missing a date, disappearing acts etc), love cares enough to be involved enough to let others know what's going on with them.
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